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Historical male survivors series

This series follows boys and men through the records left behind when they reported sexual violence.

Courts, police, doctors, researchers, and newspapers often had language for the case before they had language for the boy. Each part follows what that meant in practice.

What national surveys have counted

The available numbers remain incomplete

The estimates below come from current Centers for Disease Control and Prevention material. The CDC warns that delayed disclosure and cases that are never reported probably leave the measured totals below the actual number of survivors.

At least 1 in 20

Boys across the United States experience sexual abuse during childhood

CDC identifies this as a minimum national estimate for boys living in the United States.

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The estimate covers sexual abuse occurring before a child reaches eighteen years old.

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About 90%

The person responsible is usually someone the child already knows and trusts

CDC reports that the person is commonly known and trusted by the child or family.

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This figure concerns child sexual abuse across children rather than boys alone.

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More than 1 in 6

Millions of men report contact sexual violence occurring during their lifetimes

The latest national CDC survey includes rape, being made to penetrate, coercion, and unwanted sexual contact.

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The estimate comes from national survey data collected during 2023 and 2024.

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About 4 in 10

Many male survivors were first made to penetrate someone before reaching eighteen

This estimate concerns male survivors who reported being made to penetrate another person.

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CDC measures being made to penetrate separately from rape within its national sexual-violence survey.

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These figures describe different forms of victimization and should never be combined into one total.

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Watch these first

The first clip contains a sentence that helps explain why this series exists. It begins talking about unidentified victims and defaults immediately to women.

Victims, before anyone is named · Video 1
“Every single woman is going to be pissed off by this victim blind item because the court doesn’t want to inadvertently out anyone...”

The series

Read by part

Part I begins with what happened when a male victim entered systems built around other assumptions. Part II goes further back. Part III follows the 1970s as institutions started changing the language without changing at the same speed. Part IV follows the 1980s through an exploited boy the record called a hustler. Part V enters the 1990s through the police call Sheldon Kennedy finally made.

The point of Part II: boys were already reporting abuse and appearing in official records. The language surrounding them often changed what later readers could see.

Share your story

Men and boys deserve a place to be heard.

If you survived sexual abuse, exploitation, trafficking, institutional abuse, or another form of sexual violence and want to talk about what happened, you can contact me here. You can ask about an interview, a future feature, or simply make contact before deciding what you want to share.

The long-term goal is to build What About the Boys? into a nonprofit that can support male survivors in more ways than publication alone. That organization does not exist yet, but listening to survivors is where the work begins.

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Resources for male survivors

If you need support, you do not have to start with this project.

What About the Boys? is a reporting project, not a hotline or counseling service. I added a separate page with male-specific peer support, sexual-assault hotlines, child-abuse support, therapist directories, and crisis help.

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Why this project exists

Male survivors did not suddenly appear when institutions developed better language for them. Earlier records show boys reporting abuse, appearing in courtrooms, being examined by doctors, and being counted in institutional data. This series follows those records at the level of the people inside them.

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Everything here stays free to read.

This reporting costs money to produce, including records, research tools, document retrieval, and maintaining the project. If you want to help me continue doing it, you can support the work through Buy Me a Coffee. There is never any obligation to donate.

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